What the "Honeymoon Phase" In Dating Feels Like & Why It's Good When It Ends

Let's face it, love is the one thing that people want most. In American culture, the usual way to find love is by dating over and over again until you find someone you connect with. Some are more experienced in dating than others and some have loved more people than others. But at the end of the day, no matter who we are, where we come from, what our background is, none of us have control over our heart. When infatuation or the "honeymoon phase" strikes, none of us are immune to its symptoms.

The honeymoon phase usually occurs in the first six months, sometimes up to a year (depending on how slowly the relationship evolves).

When you are infatuated, dating this person changes everything. It affects you from the moment you wake up to when you’re dreaming again. When you really start to like someone, thoughts of them will seep into every corner of your brain, saturating your mind. You will be consumed and all attempts to distract yourself will undeniably fail. You will smile. A lot. In the most random of moments, you will catch yourself smiling and laughing at a funny thought or memory of your significant other and it will fill you up like a cup of warm tea. You will beam and you will glow and you will feel like you’re floating.

The honeymoon phase is wonderful and it is a critical part of dating and relationships, but it is important to know that this initial fascination eventually wears out. During this phase, your perception of your significant other is grandly romanticized. You are unwilling to see the gravity of their flaws because everything about them seems perfect. Yes, even the way they keep dirty socks shoved under their desk may oddly seem charming.

This stage is vital to the success of a relationship because it is a temporary magic glue that binds two people together with enough openness and minimal cynicism to really get to know each other better. It's a bit of a catch 22-- the more captivated you are, the more you want to know about the person. But with each piece of information you retrieve, you peel away another layer of blissful (and blind) romance and take a step closer to reality. You begin to lower that person down, slowly, from their pedestal and see them for who they really are.

Most people misconstrue this allure for love. This is not love, it is merely temporary.

Most people will break up and try to once more find and recreate this enchantment with another person and will find that, again, the magic eventually wears out. They will repeat the pattern and feel confused that love isn't lasting in any of their relationships. Do not confuse infatuation for love.

Love is what happens after all the excitement falls away. Love is when two real people see each other for exactly as they are, and not through magic goggles, and still want to spend time together, care for the other and support each other. Love begins at the end of infatuation.

While the honeymoon phase is romantic and sweeps you off your feet, do not be sad when it begins to fizzle out. Love is just around the corner!

Do you agree with this? How long did your honeymoon phase last? Let me know in the comments below!

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